Actually, life is so hard to exist without true love. True love should be grown in the bottom of the heart with its authentic values but not on the lips with just so-called sweet words that can please a person at the moment. Then, what is the authentic values of love? The authentic values of love may be mutual care, attention, respect, understanding and forgiveness to each other’s faults and failings when one feels something wrong to the action of another.
However, you may know about it more than I know. I believe that it will not be easy to find such a true love in imperfect human world. As you know, human being is egoistic, selfish and marketing-minded and always bargaining for something they have to do. Expectation from what they have to do for somebody else is one of the most problematic phenomena because it is so hard to fulfill one’s expectation.
When one does not feel fulfilled as one expected, one will lose one’s temper. One will do everything reluctantly. The relation between them will slowly go bad. Finally, it can go disconnected between them until the relation is broken.
Therefore, I have often given the advice to the people not to expect too much from anyone. If you can help them, you should try the best you can with your own pure good will without expecting anything from someone you have helped. If the outcome is done itself, you should enjoy it wisely. It will make you quite happy. Such a happiness will make you truely happy forever.
Of course, if you find someone with the values of true love as I mentioned-above, it would be nice and you are lucky too. However, I believe that it will not be easy. Therefore, life should be lived wisely and will keep all of us struggling until we die. But be happy. It is the outcome of life we love. Vipassana is the best technique to closely help us how to live wisely.
