Q: How can you deal with a person who is not appreciating your love?

Q: How can you deal with a person who is not appreciating your love?

A: Well, it is a good question you should learn to be clear. Sometimes, we can experience with those who do not appreciate our love and loving activities. You can even meet some people who do not acknowledge your love. However, we must be clear with why we practice love and loving actions towards people and all the beings.

Actually, we must practice love and loving actions not because we want to receive the returns of love or the loving responses from someone else but it must be because we know and we fully understand the value of love and the quality of love towards all the beings. I believe that there will be no matter whether the others appreciate our love or not when we practice love by fully understanding the value and the quality of love.

The practice of love with such an understanding will bring you spiritual benefits even though the others do not bring anything for you. The most important thing you have to do in practicing true love fully understanding the value and the quality of love is that you must keep practicing it without thinking or feeling whether they appreciate or acknowledge your love or not.

That’s not really important but you have to be aware of your thinking or feeling that they do not appreciate your love and loving actions towards them and observe your thinking and feeling arisen concerning them at the moment and let those thinkings and feelings go.

I’m sure that we must not stop our pure and noble hearts of love towards all the beings including those who do not appreciate our love and loving actions towards them because we are fully confident of your love and we fully understand the value and the quality of love developed in our hearts. I hope you get it.

Q: Well, thanks a lot, Sir. I will try to practice “The attention, the observing such thoughts and feelings and letting go of them”. It is really a great lesson I have learnt from you today.

Author:

Ashin Kekasa is a graduate in Mathematics. He finished his both public and monastic educations. His major interest was Mindfulness-Based Vipassana Meditation instructed in Buddhism. He took six months long retreat course in Mahasi Meditation Center when he was a layman. After his six months long meditation practice, he became a Buddhist ordained in Mahasi Tradition. However, he wanted to know much more about Buddhist philosophy so he moved to Mahagandhayon monastery to study Pali scriptures seriously. He has spent teaching and practicing in Mahagandhayon monastery. He did it well. Then, he moved to the forest for his serious meditation practice. He founded his own forest meditation center 15 years ago. He has been conducting Vipassana retreat for laypeople twice a year. He has also been used to travelling to abroad since 2004 because he is invited by people to teach them meditation. It is just a brief biography of Ashin Kelasa.