Q: When we love each other, there is attachment too. How can we deal with the attachment?
A: Well, I think that you have to understand the difference between attachment and love. Why is attachment there? Actually, attachment is arisen by negative emotions such as distrust and maybe possessiveness of something or someone. I’m sure that attachment is not love any more. When you are attached to something or someone, you will definitely be suffered for the attachment.
No matter who we are or which religion we follow, we will be suffered when we are attached to anything and anyone. Even a monk must be suffered when he is attached to something or someone. Therefore, we are in the same boat. Only when you see the meaning of true love will you be able to be happy.
Q: It’s true. How can we understand whether it is true love or not?
True love means seeing each other’s benefits, wishing for each other’s happiness, being ready to fulfill mutual needs and no selfishness at all in true love. Therefore, there are quite many positive spiritual phenomena in true love such as mutual care, mutual attention, mutual respect, no distrust, sense of security, trustworthiness, reliability on each other. In true love, you will not think for you first but you will think the other first. These things are the characteristics of true love ❤️.
As soon as you feel negative between both parties, it will not be love anymore. So before this negative emotion is bigger, you must try a sincere talk to each other on what causes such a negative emotion between you two not to create a bigger negative emotion. It will be very difficult to solve when the negative emotion is bigger between you, both parties.
You should remember the difference between “Love and Attachment” as follows:–
Love is an angel 😇 ; attachment is a devil.
Love is water; attachment is fire 🔥.
Love is positive; attachment is negative 👎.
Love keeps us warm; attachment keeps us burn.
Love is a friend of loyalty; attachment is a friend of corruption.
Love is praised by the wise; attachment is blamed by the wise”.
So now, I hope you understand the difference between love ❤️ and attachment. Be an an angel 😇. Don’t be a devil.
Q: Well, thank you so much Sir. We are so lucky today meeting you and listening to your precious speech. We will keep it to home. Thank you so much again.
In the picture, a priest hugged me with deep love and warmly welcoming to his church when I was in Italy for teaching “Mindfulness-Based Vipassanā meditation”. It is just exactly what we all need more than a belief in a religion. It is also a very practical matter to live as wise and smart human being in this wonderful planet because we can’t build our world and humanity by hatred and hostility but by love, compassion and mutual understanding. May everyone of the world in any faith be equally happy, safe and secure, free from all kinds of troubles and live harmoniously.
